Does my child need to come to a support group
The short answer is usually, “yes.” Children grieve a death in the family as intensely as the adults.  However, they do not show that grief in the same way. Because of their shorter attention span, they may have much briefer times of sadness, expressed over a period of time.  Children struggle to understand the permanency of death and have profound fears about their own well-being and who will take care of them.  They are repetitive in their grief and may ask the same questions over and over about the death.  Often, children act out their sadness by engaging in aggressive behavior or angry outburst.  Children will act as if they are doing okay as a way of attempting to restore order to their world and to avoid causing more worry or pain for the adults in their world. Because they may not have the words to express their grief, they may experience more internal conflict, confusion, & fear.  Being part of a support group lessens the feeling of isolation because they see other children who are experiencing a similar loss.  Through activities in the groups, children will learn words to help them express the feelings they have, helping them to work through the grief rather than internalizing it, which can create health problems, difficulties in school or complications later in life.

Is There A Long Waiting List
No. Usually within a few weeks from the initial call and completion of a brief telephone intake questionnaire, a family will be able to attend an orientation. Once a family has completed orientation and returned the application forms, they are offered a twice-a-month support group.

How soon after the death do children come to group
Children may come at any time. Some families come immediately following a death. Others come several months later. Lost & Found Grief Center encourages participation in group whenever the children and parents feel they are ready for a grief support group.

How many are in the groups
Groups range in size from 6-12. If a group is large, the children are sub-divided into smaller groups to encourage more sharing and to allow for more attention from the adult facilitators.

What is the fee for attending group
We never charge our participants a fee. Donations are welcomed, but not required.
Funding for this project was provided in part by The Missouri Foundation for Health. The Missouri Foundation for Health is a philanthropic organization whose vision is to improve the health of the people in the communities it serves.